Facebook Lets You Mark Friend Requests with “Not Now,” then Decide on Them Later

Facebook is adding a new option to how people friend each other, trying to limit unwanted social behavior.

Now, when someone adds you as a friend, you can mark “Not Now,” thereby relegating their request to a separate menu called “Hidden Requests.” You can then confirm the person later in this menu, if you want, and in the meantime they’ll just see that they’re “awaiting friend confirmation” from you in the interface. Just as when you choose to not accept a friend request, they will not be notified when you give them this new designation.

Facebook says it is also trying to refine how it prohibits overly aggressive friending through the feature. If you hide then delete a request, you’ll have the option to mark that you don’t know the person. This will block that person from trying to friend you in the future.

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40 Responses to “Facebook Lets You Mark Friend Requests with “Not Now,” then Decide on Them Later”

  1. Facebook to Change How You Process Friend Requests says:

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  2. Facebook modifica la Richiesta di Amicizia says:

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  3. Filipino Internet Users » Facebook “Not Now” Button for Processing Friend Request says:

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  5. Jim’s WebLetter says:

    [...] Up to now, Facebook only gave you a confirmation or denial of a friend request. Now they’ve changed the options to include a “not now” feature so you can decide to include that request later or not. Sometimes it’s best to leave well enough alone, you know? http://www.insidefacebook.com/2010/09/17/facebook-lets-you-mark-friend-requests-with-not-now-then-de… [...]

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  13. essay_writing says:

    That’s an interesting feature, but why create another folder on my page? If I am not sure whether to add the person, I just leave her invitation hanging for a while and then decide. Wouldn’t it be easier just to introduce “I don’t know the person” button on the confirm/ignore friends box? Also, what if I didn’t know the person and blocked her and then got acquainted – will we be never able to make friends with them?

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  22. Gene says:

    What is called “aggressive friending” will still be happening due to the behavioral factor – many people find it impolite to decline requests to become friends. They accept all the requests just to block the unwanted “friends” later on by other available means.

  23. Bobbi Jo Woods says:

    I don’t like this new feature. I prefer, “ignore” or “confirm”. Now those who have “awaiting friend confirmations” listed on their profile will NEVER go answered because of this so-called hidden folder. Out of sight, out of mind, I say. Give me back my “ignore” button!

  24. Is the new “NOT NOW” option better than the old “IGNORE” button « Tips, Tools, Trends & Triumph's of a Digital Relationship says:

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  26. Did That Ignored Friend Request Really Get Ignored? | Facebook Security Alert — Make It Work Blog says:

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  27. Oneupweb : Facebook Denies Friend Denials | Oneupweb : StraightUpSocial Blog says:

    [...] just a few days ago, Inside Facebook reported that Facebook has changed this option from Deny to Not [...]

  28. Susan says:

    I agree with Bobbi Jo – just put it back the way it was! They have complicated something by “fixing” something that was not broken.

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  31. Deborah says:

    Not only did Fb not notify us, but I found “Hidden Requests” in my husbands site. ( I set this site up for him & manage it as this is not a site for mildly computer literate people!)Thought some gal was trying to send a married man a hidden request or that he had done it to hide from me. Turns out, he hit ignore & thought she was gone…a done deal.
    Aside from the fact we could have ended up in divorce court, when you access your account via a smart phone, you are unable to see this “hidden feature”. Then you have to access full site to confirm or delete this potential “hidden friend”. What a pain. I’m starting to really miss MySpace!!

  32. james says:

    http://www.facebook.com/friends/edit/?sk=requests

  33. la neurona atenta « Facebook implementó en silencio una opción de “seguir” de hecho. says:

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  34. LaTasha Green says:

    My friend did send me a request,and I click on not now..but when I went back 2 add her the hidden request was gone..$o where is it/0r how can I now add her..I cant find her name because she has her page on privacy..CAN YOU FIX THIS ISH FB?!?

  35. statewide van lines says:

    It’s in the human nature to gravitate towards saying ‘yes’ to a request than to decline it in cold blood. There is always a chance of hurt feelings or even more – retaliation. “Not now” button is a good way out of the dilemma, besides it fits with the procrastinating nature that most of us can admit to.

  36. Facebook Changes How You Add Friends | says:

    [...] Facebook was first to report on the new “Not Now” option, and Facebook has since confirmed that it is indeed replacing the [...]

  37. Facebook changes how you process friend requests | Capstone Creations in Louisville, KY says:

    [...] Inside Facebook was first to report on the new “Not Now” option, and Facebook has since confirmed that it is indeed replacing the current “Ignore” option for all members and will be rolling it out to everyone in the next few days. [...]

  38. Quora says:

    Who decided to change the “Ignore” button to “Not Now” in Facebook Friend Requests?…

    According to Inside Facebook, this change occurred around September 17, 2010 [1]. > Now, when someone adds you as a friend, you can mark “Not Now,” thereby relegating their request to a separate menu called “Hidden Requests.” You can then confirm the p…

  39. Facebook's Sneaky Backdoor Follow Feature says:

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  40. Facebook Adds an Implicit Follow Feature « Gigya's Blog says:

    [...] recently reported by Inside Facebook and TechCrunch, a small tweak in the “respond to friend request” screen on FB is going [...]

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